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This shared experience has been an incredible journey of highs and lows

This shared experience has been an incredible journey of highs and lows

Ruth a Foster Carer from Tavistock in West Devon, has shared her experiences of working in the social care industry and how it has aided her journey into fostering.

“I worked as an Auxiliary nurse,social care worker, activity organiser and then care manager for the elderly with dementia. For over 30 years i juggled working shifts, having children, looking after the home, cooking, gardening, walking the dogs…the list went on!!!
Every Christmas ,New year ..Easter..birthday..summer holiday ..involved relying on close family and friends to look after our children and not being there for them, so I could work or working a night shift and not sleeping all the next day!
Working with the elderly involved working closely with Doctors, social workers Physiotherapists, Physchotherpists, OTs, ..training involved first aid, health and safety, equality and diversity ,vulnerable adults, risk assessments ..being risk adverse and affectively communicating
My manager at social services many years ago told me off as I made the mistake of comparing the behaviour of a client with dementia to that of a young child so for a long time I buried my longing to be a foster Carer..I was also quite intimidated back then of social workers !! Really don’t know why!! Just thought that they were there to criticise your home !!
I’ve wanted to foster for years and had thought to myself so often that the experiences and training imbedded in me would surely put me in a good position however I was scared to incase I was told no!!!
When I worked a shift in the nursing home. I worked with a brilliant team of colleagues, however accepting a child in my own home is like my whole family working the same 24 hour shift 7 days a week with me.. which mostly is a blessing and if I’m honest sometimes a curse ..we’ve all had to change so much ..have to think what we say and do in our own home.However with some adjustments within our home we are give children a safe and loving home ..I get to be at home to enjoy all the holidays with my whole team!!
I wish I’d had the courage to ask a lot sooner as it’s what’s made us as a family and as individuals. This shared experience has been an incredible journey of highs and lows .and has brought us even closer together ..it’s taught us all so much and has to be in my mind the most rewarding and humbling experience a family can have and I’m so incredibly proud of our own children and the children who have needed us to be there for them and to see them grow is just miraculous.”

 

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